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How I Coped with My Self Doubts






Self doubt is a dangerous thing.

It has always been a struggle for me to face my choices with all the negative thoughts boggling my mind.

What if I'm not good enough? What if I made the wrong choice? What if I can't do it? What if I fail? What if..

All these what ifs that are holding me back is depressing.

Was depressing.

It took me a while, a looong while to not get past it but to live through it, with it. I know that there will be self doubts. It's constant, always reminding me of what I lack as if it's following me incessantly. But eventually, I learned to flow with it.

When self doubts start clogging your thoughts, learn to ignore it and focus on your goal. Always focus on what you want to accomplish and your plan to actually get through it. Afterall, your goal should not attain perfection because no one ever is, but to reach your realistic objective.

Do not make your mind your enemy. You are not your enemy.

Learn to live with your flaws with a smile just like I did and am doing. 

I Am More Than An Option



I am not just a fish you catch through a net among others.  I am not a contestant in The Bachelor fighting for your attention not to get eliminated.  I am not playing on a basketball court as a reserve.  I am not an option in a multiple choice question in your test.

And lastly,

I am not an option for you to put in a backburner,  waiting and hoping for your attention while you look for the best candidate as a partner - someone prettier,  smarter,  kinder.  Someone better.

For I am me.  The me who will love you for who you are now and for who you can be with regardless if someone better comes along because if I love you, then I see you as someone who's already better than anyone else who will come in my life.

I am me.  The clumsy ol' me.  I make mistakes. I do things I sometimes regret.  I'm not the most beautiful girl out there nor am I the sexiest and smartest.  I have my moments where I break down and cry. I'm a disappointment sometimes - a failure,  a mess.

However,

I am me.  A kind-hearted and caring individual.  When I love,  I love deeply.  I strive to spread positivity wherever I go.  I smile at people,  even strangers,  because I try to see the good in others.  I am pretty as beautiful as I can be. My body is a work of art,  a work of God.  My heart is as big as it can be inside my chest.  I'm hardworking,  diligent and disciplined.  I try to make the right choices whenever I can.

I am me.  The girl who loved you.  The girl who wouldn't have given up on you.

But you set me aside as a reserve.

And I'm more than that.

I'm more than an option.

I am me and I deserve better.

Starting Over is the Hardest Thing I Had to Do



Some people say that the hardest thing in life is giving your all and failing - having disappointing results. It's either you didn't pass an exam you stayed up late for or rather you courted someone in a very long time but it still came out as a one-sided love and, let's be honest, many many more. I'll admit, I used to think this way. You see, what's worse than having your hard earned work put to trash?  

I used to think nothing. 

What's the point of trying again when I have been rejected a couple of times? Is it even worth the effort?

These kinds of toxic questions have circulated my mind for a very long time. And you know what? It made me into this negative person I didn't know. And I didn't want to get to know, ever.  Because with this mentality, I sucked my dreams and threw it in archive, hidden in my mind - making time pass without ever trying to reach them. 

What's the point of trying? I asked myself again. I kept thinking that I should just let it be. If it's for me, then it's for me, no amount of effort can change that. 

This is wrong. I encourage you not to think this way. 

Instead, think like this, I received another failure but I have to keep trying, trying until I reach my goal, my dream. Let me tell you the truth, there are a few lucky people who got success on their first try. What can you do? It's written in their fates. For the most of us, it's not. People work hard to get where they are. Do you think big businesses like Mcdonald's, Lazada or even famous celebrities like Ariana Grande or Taylor Swift, got to where they are without failing and starting over? No, I might not know them personally  but I know this because I grew up reading tons of news and articles about success stories. 

Now, I'm going to tell you my story. I did blogging back in 2016, it was, what I can say, a booming popularity. In just a few months, I had quite a few brand deals accepted. I did earn money from my articles. I was happy, a bit overwhelmed, but ecstatic nevertheless. As months passed, my site did very well - even having first page searches on some topics. It was amazing and overwhelming at the same time. Self confidence and a love for writing were what I gained in those months. I was invited in events and even won contests on writing. To me, it was everything.

But life is very tricky. 

I grew tired of posting new articles. There were months where I stopped updating. I wasn't answering my emails and I just grew really lazy. Back then I multi tasked, blogging and my work. What I did was focus on my work and in turn, forgot all about my hobby. It wasn't a failure of a proposal that got me, it was a failure in my actions that killed my happiness. 

I forgot to manage my time really well. Because if you love something, you will make time for it even on your busiest days. 

I was lost. Eventually, I had to shut down my blog. And because I was in disarray, I also closed my social media accounts - Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. In my mind I was just giving myself a breather - from everything. It took me more than a year to realize how stupid I was of letting the opportunity I had to grow big. 

And now here I am, starting over again - with a new website, social media accounts and my very first post. 

The reason why starting over is a very hard thing to do is because it's hard to get the courage to stand up again - to do what you already did before. 

And I encourage you to do just that. 

If you love something, don't ever be afraid to start over again - to face failure and say "F*ck off". 

I am Fris and welcome to my blog. 

Helpful Tips To Achieve your 2017 Resolutions


2017 has started with its first few days. By now, most people have already thought about their new year's resolutions - a list of goals to achieve by the end of the year. This habit has been a tradition, really. Everyone has their own personal goals and they do what they can for it to be a success. However, some people seldom complete their list and most often than not repeating the same resolution for years.

This post is for people who can relate. Although, take note that there is really no right way to achieve your resolutions since situations are different. Hopefully, this post will serve as your guide in having the best year to complete your goals!

Here is a list of carefully thought tips based on my personal experience:


1. Jot your mind down. Write everything that comes to your mind when you think about your goals. Let it out, no holds barreled thoughts. Do not reword or rephrase anything, jot it dow word per word because once you think about how to write it like the ones you do on essays, you might forget important points.


2. Rate it. Just like everything else, you need to learn how to prioritize meaning putting the important ones first. I'm sure most of us have tons of goals we want to achieve. However, having so much on the list can hinder you from completing everything in one year.


3. Rephrase the Top 5. Now from your draft, choose the top 3-5. (Your number depends on the confidence that you will complete it for a year) Then, reword it nicely. The ones that will really make you motivated. Like for example, instead of writing - lose weight, try to go for "Yay for Sexy Bod!".


4. Game Plan is Everything.  You have a goal but do you have a plan? Without this, it'll be hard for you to attain your goal. Thus, below your goals write how you'll do it. It can be short and simple, it depends on you, really.

5. Execute and Enjoy! Be sure to follow your plan. If you fail, don't be afraid to try again. After all, you have 365 days to be successful. Among everything else, enjoy and have fun!

I hope this short article help you in achieving your goals this year! I'm feeling that this will be your year. May 2017 be filled with countless opportunities and joys. Happy New Year!

The Art of Waiting

The Art of Waiting


"Chase your dreams,

 And chase it fast."

We live in a fast-paced environment where everything changes in a blink of an eye. This, in turn, force the living to cope and adapt with the ever-changing world. This is just a fact. In addition, it seems that some people use this as a way to live life too.

"We need to get our applications fast"

 "Ugh okay I'm not promoted after 3 months of working real hard, I'll leave this job to go look for a higher position in a different company."

 "He should like me back once I messaged him"

 "Lose weight in a day"

 "I need to finish this drama in a day"

 "If I study for five minutes, I hope I'll pass"

These are just some examples of day to day sentences that, admit it, some people utter. Because of the way time flies so fast, people sometimes forget how to relax, take their time and wait for the fruits of their hardwork to grow.

We forget to savor the moments we cherish because we have gotten used to rushing things that it already became a habit.

Some things in life isn't supposed to be immediate. There are instances that requires long term hardwork and determination. Just like studying and going through stages of education before braving to face the world. Or getting to know the right girl or guy to spend the rest of your life with. These are some of the things that many people encounter in their lives.

So my dear readers, here's my advice to those of you that are always in a hurry, stop whatever your  doing and breathe. Take notice of the world around you, despite of all the horrors its been through, it's beautiful, no? Now, take time to internalize the things you need to stop living fast track.

Let me help you a little,

Stop chasing love, it'll come eventually.

you'll grasp your sweet graduation soon just focus on your lessons.

There are no shortcuts in losing weight, (unless you have the money to see a doctor) just pure hardwork and discipline will get you there.

And many more.

Balance is the key in life.

 Stop living your life in shortcuts. 

Some things are meant to be endured and savored longterm, and the fruits will be so much sweeter.

6 Ways To A Goodmorning!


Hearing the sweet melody of the birds, she gracefully woke up in the beautiful morning. Seeing the sun streaks passing through the window, she smiled knowing it would be a great day ahead. 

The scenario I painted is a very common notion of a "Goodmorning". This is also a popular scene in Disney princess movies. However, it doesn't mean it really happens in real life. This is just one of those expectations versus reality kind of thing. SAD BUT TRUE. 

That doesn't mean one can't have this "goodmorning" scene in their lives. Although, no one can't really copy this point blank, unless you already have? Anyway, waking up grouchy and sleepy every morning can be tiresome. So here are my suggestions on how you can be motivated and happy to be up early every single day!

Don't Be An Owl. 
In other words, sleep early. Yes, this is a very repetitive and common advice ya-da ya-da. But you see, sleeping late and waking up early in the morning will just tire you throughout the day due to the fact that you lack sleep. Ever wondered why you get sleepy in the middle of the day, this is the reason why. Plus, if you have a wonderful dream, it can get cut in the middle which will be frustrating. Just kidding, but that happens too. 

Have That Peaceful Alarm. 
Ahh, the most irritating blunder in our wonderful wonderful sleep. Don't you just hate being woken up by a shrill noise? That ringing sound is the worst LSS ever. But, the problem is some people can't live without an alarm or they won't wake up in time. Thus, don't trash it completely. Do have an alarm that has a calm and serene sound so as you can wake up not being jolted by a ringing sound. If you have a problem with soft alarms, add a flair then set it with your favorite song. Why not sing your heart out waking up, right?

Eat Your Eggs. 
Well, not just eggs. HAHA. You can prepare any breakfast of your choice as long as it is enough to give you tons of energy. DO NOT eat a small amount of food here, it is a necessity (atleast for me) to munch a lot. Besides, you'll burn it anyway. (If you're not sedentary all day). If you're having a problem in finding what to eat, search for healthy breakfast recipes and follow those.

Wear Your Confi-Dress. 
Apologies for the bad title. lol. Be the fashion guru of your life. Wear something that you'll be comfortable and confident in. Find clothes that are appropriately you. If you're not comfortable with the trend, the don't follow it because chances are if you fit into what you don't like, it will just ruin your day. 

Say Yes To Management.
Before being bombarded with the tasks you need to do (believe me this can dampen your positive morning), jot down all of it in a paper or your phone. As such, you will not be rushed and buried in worry and deadlines. Plus, you can enjoy your morning leisurely without any concern about your time. 

Plus for Positive Thoughts. 
There are times that people focus on negativity. Thinking about doubts, worse expectations and failures are just the common lingering concerns. However, all of these are wrong. If a bad experience has already happened, do not put your attention in it. Get through by changing your future and making it a life lesson. Thus, last but not the least, it is important to spend your mornings thinking of positive thoughts. This will slay all your pessimistic views.

Treasure all these steps and I hope you all have a goodmorning! 
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